If a mother finds themselves in this situation then the following advice for new mothers might come in handy to assist the new mother on how to handle not one, but two babies. Expecting a baby is a joyful and nerve wrecking experience for any mother, but when a mother finds out that they are expecting twins, the preparation and joy becomes a ‘double affair’ to say the least.
Tips and Advice for New Mothers of Twins
- YOU DON’T HAVE TO HAVE THINGS EXACTLY IN PAIRS
The first advice for new mothers of twins is it’s okay if 1 baby has more clothes than the other baby, and the only person who will remember that 1 boy had khaki shorts while the other didn’t is the mother herself. The mother does not have to ‘crack their skull’ while shopping because they feel everything has to match perfectly.
- DON’T STRESS IF YOUR BABIES AREN’T REACHING THEIR MILESTONE TOGETHER
Whether it’s a myth that boys generally reach their milestone at a slower pace than girls stands to be seen, but this myth might come in handy to a new mother who’s concerned that her twins are not reaching their milestones together. This tip for new moms of twins is not just applicable to twins of opposite gender, but also to same sex twins. A mother must remember that though their child is a twin, they are their own person, and just because baby number 1 is not walking at 9 months, while his sister or brother is, is not indicative that there’s something wrong with baby number 1.
- ASK FOR HELP
The other advice for new mother of twins is a mother must ask for help. All new mothers need assistance irrespective of whether a mom has 1 baby or 2 babies. A mother must ask for help, be it from one of their family members or hires a live in nanny to help with the twins, either way a mother mothering twins needs help.
- TRUSTING YOUR INSTINCTS
Children are unfortunately not born with a ‘user’s manual guide’, so a mother must rely on her instincts. If she feels something is wrong, then it most probably is. No one can know how alike or different twins are like their mother, so it’s natural that the twin who cries a lot than the other will probably require more attention than the more quite twin.
- TRY TO ESTABLISH A ROUTINE
A mother must try by all means to establish a routine for her twins. If there’s no routine established, the mother will be drained out and suffer extreme exhaustion. A routine in this case means developing a bedtime routine, an eating routine and nap time for both kids. A mother must try to also take a nap while her kids are asleep.
The above advice for new mothers is not in any way an exhaustive list but these are just guidelines to all mothers, but particularly to those who find themselves mothering 2 babies at once. The most important thing that a mother must remember is that a well-rested and happy mother will have happy babies.